Alice Miller Quotes
Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation.
Alice Miller (20th century), German psychoanalyst and author. For Your Own Good, "Unlived Anger," (trans. 1983).
The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were mistreated themselves and were not permitted to defend themselves.
Alice Miller (20th century), German psychanalyst and author. For Your Own Good, "Poisonous Pedagogy," (trans. 1983).