Erica Jong Quotes

In a bad marriage, friends are the invisible glue. If we have enough friends, we may go on for years, intending to leave, talking about leaving—instead of actually getting up and leaving.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. author. "A Day in the Life ...," How To Save Your Own Life (1977).
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Friends love misery, in fact. Sometimes, especially if we are too lucky or too successful or too pretty, our misery is the only thing that endears us to our friends.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. author. "A Day in the Life ...," How to Save Your Own Life (1977).
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Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. author. "A day in the life ...," epigraph, How to Save Your Own Life (1977).
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Isn't that the problem? That women have been swindled for centuries into substituting adornment for love, fashion (as it were) for passion?... All the cosmetics names seemed obscenely obvious to me in their promises of sexual bliss. They were all firming or uplifting or invigorating. They made you tingle. Or glow. Or feel young. They were prepared with hormones or placentas or royal jelly. All the juice and joy missing in the lives of these women were to be supplied by the contents of jars and bottles. No wonder they would spend twenty dollars for an ounce of face makeup or thirty for a half-ounce of hormone cream. What price bliss? What price sexual ecstasy?
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. author. "A day in the life ...," How To Save Your Own Life (1977).
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Throughout much of history, women writers have capitulated to male standards, and have paid too much heed to what Virginia Woolf calls "the angel in the house." She is that little ghost who sits on one's shoulder while one writes and whispers, "Be nice, don't say anything that will embarrass the family, don't say anything your man will disapprove of ..." [ellipsis in original] The "angel in the house" castrates one's creativity because it deprives one of essential honesty, and many women writers have yet to win the freedom to be honest with themselves.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. poet and novelist. As quoted in Contemporary Poets, 3rd ed., by James Vinson (1980). Virginia Woolf (1882-1941) was an important British novelist and essayist.
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I am devoted to those who endured, like Colette. It is easier ... to kiss the world a bitter goodbye than to go on working, writing, changing, enduring the slings & arrows of outrageous aging. Colette endured. And she wrote & wrote & wrote. Whenever I feel really depressed, I think of her & keep going.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. poet and novelist. As quoted in Mountain Moving Day, by Elaine Gill (1973). Colette (1873-1954) was a prolific French novelist.
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The only difference between men and women is that women are able to create new little human beings in their bodies while simultaneously writing books, driving tractors, working in offices, planting crops—in general, doing everything men do.
Erica Jong (20th century), U.S. novelist and poet. As quoted in Necessary Losses, by Judith Viorst, ch. 8 (1986).
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The AIDS plague has so fed into America's current need to disown the sexual revolution that it has been hard to determine whether the new disease is just a convenient excuse or truly a new Black Death.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. poet and novelist. As quoted in Newsweek, p. 25 (June 23, 1986).
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My generation had Doris Day as a role model, then Gloria Steinem—then Princess Diana. We are the most confused generation.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. poet and novelist. As quoted in People magazine, p. 36 (March 7-14, 1994). Day (b. 1924) was a blond, wholesome, ever-virginal star of Hollywood movies in the 1950s and sixties; she performed dramatic roles but achieved her greatest popularity in romantic comedies. Steinem (b. 1934) was a prominent feminist. Lady Diana Spencer (b. 1961) became a Princess when she married Charles, Prince of Wales and heir to the British throne; like Day, she represented traditional values and ideals of femininity. All three women were extremely attractive physically.
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There is still the feeling that women's writing is a lesser class of writing, that ... what goes on in the nursery or the bedroom is not as important as what goes on in the battlefield, ... that what women know about is a less category of knowledge.
Erica Jong (b. 1942), U.S. author. As quoted in The Craft of Poetry, by William Packard (1974). Many of Jong's poems and fiction works dealt with love, sex, and family.
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